How might thinking about Gaddafi’s lurid death help us to be better parents?
Collective rage and murder wrought upon a crazed dictator pulled from a sewage drain wearing gold pants and packing a solid gold gun, while bizarre on the one hand, also illustrates an important dynamic in human consciousness: idealization and devaluation.
Whether plotting a coup or parenting a toddler or a teen, the relationship between idealization and devaluation is infallible: idealization masks secret devaluation; devaluation masks secret idealization.
Teens, for example, often exhibit know-it-all contempt and pseudo-independence (if they are safe enough to swagger), but they eventually tame it down and transition from rebel-with-an-allowance to worker bee in the collective hive, that is if we have a hive worth working for.